Lauren, I agree that sometimes in the classroom, teachers can either push too hard or too little on their students, so I think it is important to keep that balance. And with autistic kids, while you need to pay attention to every student in the classroom, it is important to respect that these kids may need more time on activities or may not like some activities that may keep them from reaching their fullest potential in the classroom.
Students who have disabilities need to be just as involved as others. Just because they have a disability does not mean that they cannot do what other students are doing. It is important to focus on what the students CAN do not what they CAN NOT do. There are too many times were teachers and other school officials allow these students disability to define them when in fact a disability does not define who they are and what they can accomplish.